an early Sunday morning thought

An early Sunday morning thought...

What is it that attracts us to another. What is it that catches our attention and holds it a while longer, manages to make us think of that person again and again, wishing to see them once more and then....once more.Sharing in the company of the other, getting lost in the conversation, finding a commonality in what is spoken, views shared. The serious matter as well as the banter, striking  a cord of familiarity. That quiet serious demeanor, so similar to oneself. And thus, that familiarity, a comfort, a space, serene and satisfied...
or
Is it a spirit hungry, wild, no filter when it comes to matters spoken of. It is not so much what is said or any commonality but, rather, a zest unfamiliar in the approach to life, so different from ones own. The difference creating a yearning to share, to experience the others world. To let go, and be, no matter the consequence.

Is the lust factor, the level of passion, the need to hold hands, the need to kiss....the need to sit close....and in that closeness devour each others thoughts and ultimately devour each others bodies.....bit by bit....first a hungry eating....and then a settling in, exploring the mind and the body... present and as deep and intoxicating... in both types of attraction.

with time...
Does familiarity breed contempt?
Does the unknown lead to an unsettled worried state of mind?

Why is that humans, the longer they spend together, either wish to change their partner or lose interest becoming bored and lifeless. Some settle for what they have, keeping the peace at home not wanting to burst the bubble, the fear of letting go of all that was worked for. Others, bravely step forward, moving on facing the uncertainty and pain of new unknown horizons.

In each case....why did it get there?

Is it that humans know not to stay happy in what they have discovered, identified as their own , enjoyed and reaped over time...no matter how long or short?
or
Is it simply, a matter that, time, changes all in its way. Experiences opening up horizons of new thought, giving us insight into what can be , how it could be.

The question then becomes....with each new experience new discovery does one...like a gypsy...move from place to place...experience to experience...partner to partner...or is their a cap to ones desire...being wise of mind....knowing what one wants, in ones Soul of Souls, and managing to identify a person, a space in time, that does define one the best one knows oneself to be ...and thus committing for time eternal.

Is there such a thing as a Soulmate and if there is ....then should one not turn ones world upside down come hell or high water in ensuring to keep that person near and close, feeding oneself day to day, zestful, loving, caring, nurturing, growing, interesting, challenging, beautiful....all encompassing.

Aaaah....i can imagine i sound like a fool and the sneers of many thinking, "what a stupid rant from her."
But.
it doesn't matter, for why would we even care to fall in love if we didn't believe there is that other one for us...that Soulmate.

The problem being....do we, humans, even know what a Soulmate is....do we even care to open ourselves up to such an ideal....or is it beyond our reach, for our minds are too cluttered and small... for it is totally centred on the 'self'.

RB.