why do we fear it?


What is it about sensuality and sexuality that makes one feel so uncomfortable? Even to the point of wanting to downplay it lest another may think 'bad' of one.
'Bad' ...?...what would constitute that 'bad'?...and....who classifies that 'bad'?...based and compared to what?
Curious to understand relationships between men and women, the reason why one chooses to be in one, the effects of being in one, and how it may develop....i have noted...is largely based, from the onset, on ones sensuality and sexuality. 
Each relationship possessing its own dynamics bringing out weaknesses and strengths with time.
Of course, there are other facets to relationships but, in this case my interest lies in why the judgement.
...And should a relationship have started with a fiery passionate mind-blowing sensually sexual attraction, could it be possible that partners are more possessive and questioning and jealous of each other in the fear that such deep passions may be shared with another...?
And if, on the other hand a relationship started on a platonic intellectual basis, becoming sensually sexual with time, is the fear one, that a partner may feel the need to indulge in luscious sensuality with an outsider due to restrictive indulgences...?
then...
A prudish upbringing, an environment where one is told to be sensually sexual is a sin, punishable by the Almighty, yet...indulgent in sexual activities to procreate...a self righteousness misplaced and tragic...?
Does age make one less accepting? Changes in ones life? The 'morphing' of ones body as time begins to devour that little bit one likes about oneself?
Or, is it a gender based judgement? 
Is it the fear of delinquent and deviant behaviour? 
Sensuality and sexuality is far from bad, and like anything in life, needs to be acknowledged, addressed and dealt with in a manner knowledgeable, insightful, understanding and helpful instead of labelling it as taboo and 'bad'.
The quicker one realises the naturalness of such, the sooner one is able to address the true and real problem misplaced at the door of sensual and sexual indulgences . RB.



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