a comment in passing...
A comment in passing on the topic of marriage, children and divorce.
So often we spend time in the company of another...knowing we have missed them.
In the beginning smiles given without hesitancy, sharing of ideas, advise given and accepted without a second thought or analysis as to why. Support given...shared.
A comfort felt in each others closeness. An eagerness to share how deep ones feelings may be....no fear of expressing the pangs of "infatuated love".
Reality is sidestepped, obligations laughed off yet met....time found for everything....even though, slightly rushed.
The busy-ness and "demand" of a new relationship, a love-affair all consuming.
Thriving in getting mutually "burnt" in each others want.
Day by day a new familiarity sets in....an irritation, somehow time lacking to share or see or patiently listen to the other.
Advise given seems out of place and uncalled for, opinions given setting off an angry debate.
Feelings of like, to love, to be in love....progressively numbed, questioned.
What is it that cruelly eats away and eventually devours something beautiful in the beginning .
Is it the novelty, the unknown...the more revealed, the more familiar....the greater the contempt, a blaze attitude setting in , numb boredom of the same old same old....the fear of age, the tiredness of responsibility....
This progressive erosion of bonds that bind...is it a unilateral happening or are both partners equal culprits....sweeping matters under the carpet over a period of time...
Or
Could it be.....in the beginning....when "infatuated love" dawned....one did not care to acknowledge those niggling idiosyncrasies that were the precursors to what may lie ahead....Good or bad.
A divorce should be carefully thought through before the towel thrown in.
But. Even worse is a household where there is no love, no bond, and children are present.
Two people living as strangers in one household...one cannot tell me an environment such will make children stronger and wiser going fwd into adulthood. It will give them a 'fucked-up' concept of what relationships should be. Settling for everything that life is not about. (Please note: in no way am i condoning divorce... posing an observation)
Rather think before rushing to the alter... And even more so.....THINK....before having children.
That is the best solution.
Marriage is a special institution and should not be indulged in too lightly or treated with disrespect.
RB.
So often we spend time in the company of another...knowing we have missed them.
In the beginning smiles given without hesitancy, sharing of ideas, advise given and accepted without a second thought or analysis as to why. Support given...shared.
A comfort felt in each others closeness. An eagerness to share how deep ones feelings may be....no fear of expressing the pangs of "infatuated love".
Reality is sidestepped, obligations laughed off yet met....time found for everything....even though, slightly rushed.
The busy-ness and "demand" of a new relationship, a love-affair all consuming.
Thriving in getting mutually "burnt" in each others want.
Day by day a new familiarity sets in....an irritation, somehow time lacking to share or see or patiently listen to the other.
Advise given seems out of place and uncalled for, opinions given setting off an angry debate.
Feelings of like, to love, to be in love....progressively numbed, questioned.
What is it that cruelly eats away and eventually devours something beautiful in the beginning .
Is it the novelty, the unknown...the more revealed, the more familiar....the greater the contempt, a blaze attitude setting in , numb boredom of the same old same old....the fear of age, the tiredness of responsibility....
This progressive erosion of bonds that bind...is it a unilateral happening or are both partners equal culprits....sweeping matters under the carpet over a period of time...
Or
Could it be.....in the beginning....when "infatuated love" dawned....one did not care to acknowledge those niggling idiosyncrasies that were the precursors to what may lie ahead....Good or bad.
A divorce should be carefully thought through before the towel thrown in.
But. Even worse is a household where there is no love, no bond, and children are present.
Two people living as strangers in one household...one cannot tell me an environment such will make children stronger and wiser going fwd into adulthood. It will give them a 'fucked-up' concept of what relationships should be. Settling for everything that life is not about. (Please note: in no way am i condoning divorce... posing an observation)
Rather think before rushing to the alter... And even more so.....THINK....before having children.
That is the best solution.
Marriage is a special institution and should not be indulged in too lightly or treated with disrespect.
RB.
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