selfishly individualistic

If u had to think of one thing that your mind rests...that one thing that places no pressure, no uncertainty, needs no forgiving, understanding or even effort on your part...what would it be?

If the first thing that comes to mind is a person, then u are blessed. Then the question would be....do they think of u as their sanctuary, their sanctity, where nothing needs to be feared, bargained, explained, excused...

Could it be that in that situation they be your sanctuary and in return...u will be a sanctuary to someone else...that it could never be a situation returned, for once u are the one leaning in for help...they feel obliged to always be there for u and somehow...u too, view them as individuals that need no rest from life and its challenges...they seem so put together, selfishly, being so self absorbed, u miss the tell-tale signs when they may need your shoulder and u as their rest place.

Even the strongest of people, the most put together people, those successful...need their rest...need their safe haven where they are allowed to breath and be insecure and needy.

Sometimes those people need it more than those that wear their emotions on their sleeve. Sometimes the most obvious cry babies may simply be drama queens that need to be tut-tutted aside and rather, attention given to those who manage to fly under the radar struggling with themselves.

It takes courage to admit to feeling challenged. 

...could it be nothing to do with courage...

 but 

rather 

that there are very few people who know and understand what it takes to be a place of rest

.... and thus high walls built and a withdrawal from society as a whole for it seems to fail many too often....

a mere shell of a person

 living 

socialising 

and grappling in instances challenging.

how selfishly individualistic we are in our existence.

RB.